Years ago, on this very day, I first met my friend “Kai.” I have not seen or heard from her in years as we met when we were teenagers. But I tend to think of her this time of year and wonder where she is, and how she’s doing. Wonder what her life is like […]
Dear friend, teacher, family, and others in my life. Maybe we haven’t been connecting lately or you’re not really sure where to start. It’s OK. I know you care. So I’m going to share something important with you about autistic people that will help you be a friend to me, and to other autistics.
Something that I hadn’t really considered until just recently was what gentle parenting has given to me. Especially the gentle parenting of my autistic daughter. I’ve spent much of my life feeling broken and awkward. Like I don’t fit, or I fit wrong. Like I’m missing one or more essential bits of information that would just make everything clearer to me. I’ve repressed feelings, complied, tried to change, experienced severe depression several times, severe post natal depression several times, self harmed a lot and been suicidal. I’ve felt cracked and fragile, like I was compromising the well-being of my children simply by existing. Through most of that I’ve also parented.
It’s been nearly 4 years since NinjaGirl was diagnosed as autistic. I can’t really describe what it was like back then, because it felt like there was so much happening at the time _ we were very busy with small children, I was still dealing with severe PND, we were massively sleep deprived and trying […]
It’s noon and my daughter is dressed in mis-matched pyjama top and bottoms, with unbrushed (never brushed) hair hanging over her eyes. She’s been awake for half an hour. Her bed-time and waking time are very different from most kids her age. It’s okay. My daughter has a very specific list of things she absolutely […]
We all have many aspects to our character that make up part of our identity. We have identity defining characteristics associated with gender and gender roles, our interests, employment, family situations, the culture we grew up in, our financial status, and our perceived value in society. Most of these characteristics are assigned a value of […]