The joy of parallel playdates

This year my kids made a friend.   “What’s the big deal?” some of you might be thinking. Well, the big deal is that making friends doesn’t come easily to them. And while they don’t seem to bothered by that, I worry about it sometimes (umm…more than sometimes), though I don’t burden them with my […]

Breaking the bough/the lie they told Kai

Years ago, on this very day, I first met my friend “Kai.” I have not seen or heard from her in years as we met when we were teenagers. But I tend to think of her this time of year and wonder where she is, and how she’s doing. Wonder what her life is like […]

The less travelled path – How I came to peaceful parenting.

(That image is me, with my first-born child.) We were twenty years old when my new boyfriend and I discovered that I was pregnant. I experienced a difficult pregnancy and had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I received poor medical care due to – my autistic ways of communicating (I was often fobbed off, disbelieved, ignored, and assumed ‘unstable’); […]

Fierce Walls

  I’ve always been quite blunt about the biggest challenge of being an autistic parent to an autistic child – other people’s expectations. Dealing with other people’s feelings and opinions on how I ought to parent, or how my children ought to be, or both, has always been more stressful and worrisome than whatever was […]

Who cares about hair?

Apparently, quite a lot of people. I spend a lot of my days in a nice little bubble of people who are pretty accepting of individuality. My closest friends are unschoolers, free rangers, vegans and other such folk who move to their own rhythms. Every now and then though, I’m reminded that there are lots […]

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Birthday Moments | by Briannon Lee

“Has he been invited to any birthday parties?” asks the psychologist. I am in the assessment room with our 3.5 year old. The psychologist is young, working for an Aspergers clinic with an excellent reputation. Her assessment is thorough. “No, he’s only three. Do kindy kids invite each other to birthday parties? We usually only […]