There is a lot of revolting ableism in alternative parenting spaces. There are people around the edges of my life, in my social circles, members of my parenting communities – who creep me out. There are peaceful parenting writers and unschooling parents; people interested in wellness and those identifying as “Natural”. There are parents who […]
We live in a world of beauty, you know. We live among children. And what could be more perfect than a child? Can you remember when you were a child, before you began to feel the weight of the world upon you? For me, I don’t think it lasted long. I can’t recall times of […]
There’s been plenty of times I’ve decided I’m having a bad day and it’s barely 7am. I’m a neurodivergent parent of neurodivergent children in a world that doesn’t sync well with our kind. It’s not hard to decide you’re having a bad day by 7am. But it’s not useful to make the call that the day […]
Even though I know better, sometimes it’s hard not to feel like a failure. Kids get older. Things change. People change, and circumstances change. It’s never easy – this type of parenting. But it gets so complicated as the children grow. It’s so different; a big change. I’m autistic. I don’t like change. I’m scared […]
Today, as I perused my Facebook feed, I came across a news story about a young autistic girl who faces being deported because she is autistic, and considered a drain on the taxpayer. Her mother (a GP) and brother can stay, but she must leave. The story is terrible enough – the choices facing […]
What if you are totally onboard with acceptance of your children in all of their beautiful diversity? What if you’re already on the acceptance bandwagon and now you’ve identified that your child seems a lot like the descriptions of children who are autistic, adhd, dyslexic, anxious, or neurodivergent in some way? What if you have always thought they might be, and it’s sat in the back of your mind like a nagging question?