I’ve always been quite blunt about the biggest challenge of being an autistic parent to an autistic child – other people’s expectations. Dealing with other people’s feelings and opinions on how I ought to parent, or how my children ought to be, or both, has always been more stressful and worrisome than whatever was […]
Naomi is an advocate for inclusion and intersectionality. She is an autistic mother of three, one of whom is also autistic. Her passions are gardening, crochet, feminism, sustainability, and the apparently odd notion that all children deserve love and acceptance for who they are.
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Today, as I perused my Facebook feed, I came across a news story about a young autistic girl who faces being deported because she is autistic, and considered a drain on the taxpayer. Her mother (a GP) and brother can stay, but she must leave. The story is terrible enough – the choices facing […]
Something that I hadn’t really considered until just recently was what gentle parenting has given to me. Especially the gentle parenting of my autistic daughter. I’ve spent much of my life feeling broken and awkward. Like I don’t fit, or I fit wrong. Like I’m missing one or more essential bits of information that would just make everything clearer to me. I’ve repressed feelings, complied, tried to change, experienced severe depression several times, severe post natal depression several times, self harmed a lot and been suicidal. I’ve felt cracked and fragile, like I was compromising the well-being of my children simply by existing. Through most of that I’ve also parented.
(Note: Speechie is slang for speech pathologist. I couldn’t resist the pun. You’re welcome!) If you’re familiar with my other posts, you’ll know that we don’t really do therapy in our house. If you’re not, well, now you know! There are some quite good reasons for that – mostly to do with the validity of […]
It’s been nearly 4 years since NinjaGirl was diagnosed as autistic. I can’t really describe what it was like back then, because it felt like there was so much happening at the time _ we were very busy with small children, I was still dealing with severe PND, we were massively sleep deprived and trying […]
We share so much, you and I. Genes, hair colour, the need to touch. We both love to snuggle – Sometimes alone, sometimes whomever is closest. We share a love of the water. Your inquisitiveness and curious mind matches mine. We have the same skin, Although yours is browned by the sun. […]