On this blog we talk a lot about gentle parenting and respectful connection with our kids. We know that it can be a hard thing to do consistently, and that it takes effort and energy and intentionality on a day to day basis. Acknowledging this, I’d like to talk about how to parent gently and […]
I’m hoping that I am not the only parent who some days feels a little terrified when they take their children grocery shopping, to a doctors appointment, or another public place where children are supposed to behave in certain angelic ways. Eeeeeeeek!
My children are neurodivergent and so they find new environments with lots of people, certain smells, fluorescent lights, and other new sensory experiences very stressful.
I am down with my son eating what he wants. When he wants. I am down with him not bathing much. I am down with him not cutting or washing his hair. I am down with him sleeping wherever he likes. When he likes. But I am not yet down with him wearing winter clothes […]
Real world fears “Wait until they get into the real world”. “In the real world they will have to do this”. I have heard real world fears thrown around a lot in recent years, I have used them myself when fear creeps in. If you don’t do this, when they get to the real world […]
Amidst a huge volume of information and advice about how we can support our children to thrive, people forget to tell parents to explore our own neurodivergence. It’s a simple thing that can create so much change for our families. It has for mine. Parents of neurodivergent children (autistic, dyslexic, active-brained, bipolar, anxious etc), take […]
CW: Compliance training, mention of abuse. Compliance is a word that many autistic people and parents of autistic children automatically associate with behavioral therapy such as ABA, but in fact a lot of everyday parenting and teaching hinges on behaviorism with compliance as a goal. Sticker charts for various tasks or for “good behavior,” withholding privileges […]