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The Importance of No

CW: Compliance training, mention of abuse. Compliance is a word that many autistic people and parents of autistic children automatically associate with behavioral therapy such as ABA, but in fact a lot of everyday parenting and teaching hinges on behaviorism with compliance as a goal. Sticker charts for various tasks or for “good behavior,” withholding privileges […]

Empaths

On a number of occasions, I’ve come across the view that autistic people lack empathy. This is a popular view in mainstream therapeutic circles and the media and one that many families seem to absorb. Being autistic means some kind of problem empathizing. I’ve heard parents of autistic children comment that their child ‘didn’t grieve’ when a loved one died […]

Life is All a Magic Window

There is a pervasive ideology in the mainstream autism parenting and education community that when it comes to autistic children, you have to act fast. That if we are to teach our children anything, we must hammer it into them before a magical developmental window slams closed forever, leaving our children permanently shut out. This concept […]