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Searching for a better way to live

It’s rare for parents to respect their autistic children. Many believe they are respectful; but if you believe that your child is disordered or damaged, how respectful is that really? I live by the Neurodiversity Paradigm. It’s a base of thinking that involves the deep respect of neurodivergent people (which includes autistic people and other […]

When our kids act out

Before I had a few kids and learned better, I believed extreme emotional reactions from children to be inherently problematic. I assumed, a bit too literally perhaps, that children would model their behaviour on their caregivers and the people they spent significant time with.  I worried about ‘exposure’ to problematic (or so I thought) behaviour […]

More of what he needs….less of what he doesn’t

My son doesn’t like noise, traffic, crowds, busyness, unexpected things happening or neighbours. He’s lived his whole 4 and a half years in the inner city, which is filled with all of the above. He’s spent months at a time preferring to stay inside our house, at times refusing to venture even into our back […]

Walking the path.

We share so much, you and I. Genes, hair colour, the need to touch. We both love to snuggle – Sometimes alone, sometimes whomever is closest.     We share a love of the water. Your inquisitiveness and curious mind matches mine. We have the same skin, Although yours is browned by the sun.   […]

Neurodiversity Paradigm Parenting FAQs

I am a parent to autistic children, and am also autistic myself. In my day to day life, I meet other parents of autistic children. Parents are often immensely ableist, seeing their autistic children through a lens of deficits and pathology-based behaviours, and viewing the very concept of being autistic as a kind of ‘something […]