Dear friend, teacher, family, and others in my life. Maybe we haven’t been connecting lately or you’re not really sure where to start. It’s OK. I know you care. So I’m going to share something important with you about autistic people that will help you be a friend to me, and to other autistics.
I’ve always been quite blunt about the biggest challenge of being an autistic parent to an autistic child – other people’s expectations. Dealing with other people’s feelings and opinions on how I ought to parent, or how my children ought to be, or both, has always been more stressful and worrisome than whatever was […]
As my children get older, I have become more comfortable and confident in our parenting choices. You see, to raise your children in a way that is completely opposite from the way in which you were raised takes a lot of determination. It is a huge leap of faith at times. There has been an […]
Parenting has its ups and downs. Parenting neurodivergent children without supports and in a world made for neurotypical people can feel very overwhelming. You might sometimes struggle with hard weeks that become months that wear you down. Feeling like you are constantly lurching from one family crisis to the next. Feeling like you have no […]
It’s rare for parents to respect their autistic children. Many believe they are respectful; but if you believe that your child is disordered or damaged, how respectful is that really? I live by the Neurodiversity Paradigm. It’s a base of thinking that involves the deep respect of neurodivergent people (which includes autistic people and other […]
Acceptance is not a one time thing. At least it hasn’t been for me. It’s like travelling from the surface of yourself, down, down, through deeper and darker layers of who you are and what you believe. Accepting my autistic son’s behaviours and honoring his needs is not a one time thing. He leads me […]