As my children get older, I have become more comfortable and confident in our parenting choices. You see, to raise your children in a way that is completely opposite from the way in which you were raised takes a lot of determination. It is a huge leap of faith at times. There has been an […]
Something that I hadn’t really considered until just recently was what gentle parenting has given to me. Especially the gentle parenting of my autistic daughter. I’ve spent much of my life feeling broken and awkward. Like I don’t fit, or I fit wrong. Like I’m missing one or more essential bits of information that would just make everything clearer to me. I’ve repressed feelings, complied, tried to change, experienced severe depression several times, severe post natal depression several times, self harmed a lot and been suicidal. I’ve felt cracked and fragile, like I was compromising the well-being of my children simply by existing. Through most of that I’ve also parented.
I grew up with a mother who constantly played the victim. When I had something that was difficult for me, she would place the attention on herself and talk all about how it made her feel that I struggled with something. When I embarassed myself publicly she would tell me how humiliated she was and […]
Some nights, I am filled with resistance. I feel it tugging at me as my 5 year old autistic son pushes back the world hard as the day nears to an end and he is weary of it. I am weary too and each request he makes of me feels like he is cornering me […]
This is a guest post by Carys O’Sullivan. Wow, it’s been a journey. An incredible ride of emotions and letting go and learning and epiphanies and quite a few paradigm shifts! Radical unschooling feels so normal to us now that I don’t even think of it in terms of those words – we’re just living […]
Parenting has its ups and downs. Parenting neurodivergent children without supports and in a world made for neurotypical people can feel very overwhelming. You might sometimes struggle with hard weeks that become months that wear you down. Feeling like you are constantly lurching from one family crisis to the next. Feeling like you have no […]