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Breaking the bough/the lie they told Kai

Years ago, on this very day, I first met my friend “Kai.” I have not seen or heard from her in years as we met when we were teenagers. But I tend to think of her this time of year and wonder where she is, and how she’s doing. Wonder what her life is like […]

Thoughts on Autistic Pride, Juneteenth, and Freedom

Where I live (Texas), every June 19th is the commemoration of “Juneteenth,” an important day in Texas history. Also known as Juneteenth Independence Day, Emancipation Day, or Freedom Day, it refers to June 19, 1865, the day a Union general and his troops occupied Galveston Island (a small strip of land in the Gulf of […]

Do they realise they are not woke at all?

There is a lot of revolting ableism in alternative parenting spaces. There are people around the edges of my life, in my social circles, members of my parenting communities – who creep me out. There are peaceful parenting writers and unschooling parents; people interested in wellness and those identifying as “Natural”. There are parents who […]

I won’t ignore your ableism

When you begin to learn about ableism, it is an unfortunate reality of it but often you go through this process of realising that many (if not all) people in your life are ableist. For me, I didn’t necessarily feel scared or feel like I should be cutting out friends for being ableist. Not yet, […]

It’s rude to insist we are disordered

As an autistic person, I do not appreciate being viewed and treated as though I am inherently faulty or damaged. Many of us (autistics) have experienced how this plays out over a childhood, with our ways of being seen as innately wrong because they were atypical. This was, and is, happening whether or not we have […]