Performing

Performing. How did they perform today? How was their performance? They are performing better than expected. They aren’t performing like their peers according to this graph. Performing and performance, children are constantly being assessed, evaluated and tested. Are they reaching milestones ? Are they behaving like peers? Did their sibling read at this age? Are […]

Neurodiversity Paradigm Parenting FAQs

I am a parent to autistic children, and am also autistic myself. In my day to day life, I meet other parents of autistic children. Parents are often immensely ableist, seeing their autistic children through a lens of deficits and pathology-based behaviours, and viewing the very concept of being autistic as a kind of ‘something […]

Controlling words

Sometimes when my kids are hanging out with each other they disagree about things. During those disagreements it is not uncommon for one of them to say “you are being mean to me”. I bet this happens in other families too. Over my 20 years of parenting, I’ve learned something about the phrase “you are […]