Even though I know better, sometimes it’s hard not to feel like a failure. Kids get older. Things change. People change, and circumstances change. It’s never easy – this type of parenting. But it gets so complicated as the children grow. It’s so different; a big change. I’m autistic. I don’t like change. I’m scared […]
Something that I hadn’t really considered until just recently was what gentle parenting has given to me. Especially the gentle parenting of my autistic daughter. I’ve spent much of my life feeling broken and awkward. Like I don’t fit, or I fit wrong. Like I’m missing one or more essential bits of information that would just make everything clearer to me. I’ve repressed feelings, complied, tried to change, experienced severe depression several times, severe post natal depression several times, self harmed a lot and been suicidal. I’ve felt cracked and fragile, like I was compromising the well-being of my children simply by existing. Through most of that I’ve also parented.
I grew up with a mother who constantly played the victim. When I had something that was difficult for me, she would place the attention on herself and talk all about how it made her feel that I struggled with something. When I embarassed myself publicly she would tell me how humiliated she was and […]
When you begin to learn about ableism, it is an unfortunate reality of it but often you go through this process of realising that many (if not all) people in your life are ableist. For me, I didn’t necessarily feel scared or feel like I should be cutting out friends for being ableist. Not yet, […]
As an autistic person, I do not appreciate being viewed and treated as though I am inherently faulty or damaged. Many of us (autistics) have experienced how this plays out over a childhood, with our ways of being seen as innately wrong because they were atypical. This was, and is, happening whether or not we have […]
This is a guest post by Carys O’Sullivan. Wow, it’s been a journey. An incredible ride of emotions and letting go and learning and epiphanies and quite a few paradigm shifts! Radical unschooling feels so normal to us now that I don’t even think of it in terms of those words – we’re just living […]