A pastel-rainbow background with distressed white text: I’m a spectrum dweller. Things are fluid. They change. I change. This is what it takes to be me - I’m finally ok with that.

Spectrum Dweller

I’m an autistic woman. I have a long history of depression, and some hefty anxiety issues. Combine that with my sensory processing issues and some periodic insomnia, and it means that in addition to NinjaGirl’s stuff we need to find ways of accommodating my stuff that makes the family work. It’s a balancing act that we don’t always […]

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What makes a good mom?

There’s an aspect of my path to acceptance that I’ve been reflecting on lately. While accepting Sophie as autistic and different was relatively easy, the other part of that was substantially more difficult- accepting myself as her mom. Let me explain that. Motherhood in the age of social media is a loaded affair. We are […]

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Empaths

On a number of occasions, I’ve come across the view that autistic people lack empathy. This is a popular view in mainstream therapeutic circles and the media and one that many families seem to absorb. Being autistic means some kind of problem empathizing. I’ve heard parents of autistic children comment that their child ‘didn’t grieve’ when a loved one died […]

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Family bonding, autistic style.

Like many autistic children, our son doesn’t do well in crowds. He’s at his best one-on-one and anything more than that tends to lead to sensory overload. This is particularly challenging when it comes to family get togethers. He enjoys wandering around the farm with his Granny or plodding around the retirement village with his […]

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Being free. Why we choose to homeschool our Autistic son.

Trigger Warning: Content includes references to abuse of children in schools, restrictive practices, restraint and seclusion The image of a little boy in a cage in an Australian school has been seared in to my mind this week. This UN World Autism Awareness Day (Autism Acceptance Day in our family) an inexcusable abuse of the […]

Word meme says: When I think about that moment, I’m very aware that what I felt was the clear stillness of acceptance. Everything slowed. Our eyes connected. I felt safe in the bubble of her unconditional love. I felt heard. Seen. Content. Accepted.

This is what acceptance feels like

For 4 years now, April has been ‘Autism Awareness’ month, with April 2nd World Autism Awareness Day. You might have heard about the ‘Light it up blue’ campaign established by US organisation Autism Speaks, to raise awareness (and money) for autism. This sounds like a noble idea. If you dug a little deeper however, you’d […]