yellow background with the words: Our kids do not need our judgement or our anger when they stuff up. They need our unconditional love and support as they navigate the difficult task of growing up. - Michelle Sutton

The cocoa cost of parenting

I made a conscious decision a few years back to do all I could to encourage autonomy in my children, even when it was inconvenient for me. This means my house is often messy as they learn about caring for their own things by experiencing the consequences of not caring for their things. My planned […]

text says: It is a bit of a dance, in a way, and we are learning, improving and becoming more co-ordinated as we go. We sometimes collide, we sometimes brush past a little awkwardly, we sometimes slip by gracefully. / michelle sutton / fb/respectfullyconnected

Meeting conflicting needs in our neurodiverse family

2 adults, 6 kids. Multiple neurodivergences. That’s my family. Bipolar, Autistic, Anxiety, Depression, Sensory Sensitivities, Sleep Challenges. We have variety. We have diversity. We have strengths and challenges. We have lots of different interests, lots of  different preferences. And we have many differing needs and a big range of coping strategies. As with most families, […]

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Spectrum Dweller

I’m an autistic woman. I have a long history of depression, and some hefty anxiety issues. Combine that with my sensory processing issues and some periodic insomnia, and it means that in addition to NinjaGirl’s stuff we need to find ways of accommodating my stuff that makes the family work. It’s a balancing act that we don’t always […]