Disabled Children Doing Best They Can. My children are doing the best they can; they are humans, and not compliant child-bots

How I help my children cope in public spaces

I’m hoping that I am not the only parent who some days feels a little terrified when they take their children grocery shopping, to a doctors appointment, or another public place where children are supposed to behave in certain angelic ways. Eeeeeeeek!

My children are neurodivergent and so they find new environments with lots of people, certain smells, fluorescent lights, and other new sensory experiences very stressful.

I won’t ignore your ableism

When you begin to learn about ableism, it is an unfortunate reality of it but often you go through this process of realising that many (if not all) people in your life are ableist. For me, I didn’t necessarily feel scared or feel like I should be cutting out friends for being ableist. Not yet, […]

It’s rude to insist we are disordered

As an autistic person, I do not appreciate being viewed and treated as though I am inherently faulty or damaged. Many of us (autistics) have experienced how this plays out over a childhood, with our ways of being seen as innately wrong because they were atypical. This was, and is, happening whether or not we have […]

Screw your IQ test; you will NOT limit my son

I want to introduce you to my son. Five feet seven inches with dark chocolate skin, even darker eyes, and the sweetest smile you’ve ever seen. He doesn’t say a whole lot, but when he has something to say you can tell he has carefully chosen his words. He feels deeply; he’s the child who, […]

Trajectories

Sometimes, freedom is the only thing you need to make a difference.   Not hours of occupational therapy. Not thousands of dollars of interventions by professionals to change behaviours. Not the stress of spending each week driving to multiple appointments.   Not buying trademarked packages of interventions to get in early and change them hard […]