If your children don't want your physical affection, and you continually ignore this, you are creating a relationship that makes them uncomfortable

Children don’t owe anyone affection

Recently a relative described my 3 year old as “cold”.

Because she did not interact in the way that a relative believed she should. She did not want to be hugged and kissed by them. She had not seen this relative for months, nor did she have a particularly special bond. Nor does my child like being particularly cuddly with anyone apart from myself and my partner.
I wish people would understand that No Child owes them affection, for anything. Full stop.

Our busy is different

My family’s busy looks different. Neurodivergent family members require lots of downtime and space around activities that leave them tired, wired and all peopled out. We chose to unschool as part of realising that the school life wasn’t suited to us, and wouldn’t meet our needs. I get this, I’m getting this much better these […]

Walking the path.

We share so much, you and I. Genes, hair colour, the need to touch. We both love to snuggle – Sometimes alone, sometimes whomever is closest.     We share a love of the water. Your inquisitiveness and curious mind matches mine. We have the same skin, Although yours is browned by the sun.   […]

Who’s suffering?

Recently, I have joined the long list of parents of autistic children who have to consider whether or not to medicate their child with psychotropic medications. Psychotropic medications alter chemical levels in the brain and impact on mood and behaviour. These medications have brand names like Prozac, Lovan, Ritalin, Adderall, Concerta, Risperdal and others. Many […]

Performing

Performing. How did they perform today? How was their performance? They are performing better than expected. They aren’t performing like their peers according to this graph. Performing and performance, children are constantly being assessed, evaluated and tested. Are they reaching milestones ? Are they behaving like peers? Did their sibling read at this age? Are […]