Judgement Day

There’s been plenty of times I’ve decided I’m having a bad day and it’s barely 7am. I’m a neurodivergent parent of neurodivergent children in a world that doesn’t sync well with our kind. It’s not hard to decide you’re having a bad day by 7am. But it’s not useful to make the call that the day […]

Should I get a diagnosis for my child?

Should I get a diagnosis for my child?

What if you are totally onboard with acceptance of your children in all of their beautiful diversity? What if you’re already on the acceptance bandwagon and now you’ve identified that your child seems a lot like the descriptions of children who are autistic, adhd, dyslexic, anxious, or neurodivergent in some way? What if you have always thought they might be, and it’s sat in the back of your mind like a nagging question?

Should you get your child diagnosed?

while I have cracks, they aren’t to do with who I am, but what I’ve been through

A Gift of Healing

Something that I hadn’t really considered until just recently was what gentle parenting has given to me. Especially the gentle parenting of my autistic daughter. I’ve spent much of my life feeling broken and awkward. Like I don’t fit, or I fit wrong. Like I’m missing one or more essential bits of information that would just make everything clearer to me. I’ve repressed feelings, complied, tried to change, experienced severe depression several times, severe post natal depression several times, self harmed a lot and been suicidal. I’ve felt cracked and fragile, like I was compromising the well-being of my children simply by existing. Through most of that I’ve also parented.

Disabled Children Doing Best They Can. My children are doing the best they can; they are humans, and not compliant child-bots

How I help my children cope in public spaces

I’m hoping that I am not the only parent who some days feels a little terrified when they take their children grocery shopping, to a doctors appointment, or another public place where children are supposed to behave in certain angelic ways. Eeeeeeeek!

My children are neurodivergent and so they find new environments with lots of people, certain smells, fluorescent lights, and other new sensory experiences very stressful.