It’s okay

It’s noon and my daughter is dressed in mis-matched pyjama top and bottoms, with unbrushed (never brushed) hair hanging over her eyes. She’s been awake for half an hour. Her bed-time and waking time are very different from most kids her age. It’s okay. My daughter has a very specific list of things she absolutely […]

a great shift happens when we are open to exploring our own sensory, emotional, cognitive and communication needs.

One thing I wish they told parents

Amidst a huge volume of information and advice about how we can support our children to thrive, people forget to tell parents to explore our own neurodivergence. It’s a simple thing that can create so much change for our families. It has for mine. Parents of neurodivergent children (autistic, dyslexic, active-brained, bipolar, anxious etc), take […]

If your children don't want your physical affection, and you continually ignore this, you are creating a relationship that makes them uncomfortable

Children don’t owe anyone affection

Recently a relative described my 3 year old as “cold”.

Because she did not interact in the way that a relative believed she should. She did not want to be hugged and kissed by them. She had not seen this relative for months, nor did she have a particularly special bond. Nor does my child like being particularly cuddly with anyone apart from myself and my partner.
I wish people would understand that No Child owes them affection, for anything. Full stop.

Walking the path.

We share so much, you and I. Genes, hair colour, the need to touch. We both love to snuggle – Sometimes alone, sometimes whomever is closest.     We share a love of the water. Your inquisitiveness and curious mind matches mine. We have the same skin, Although yours is browned by the sun.   […]

Hello, April.

Hello, April. I looked at the calendar today. I see that you are near. I see that you are near and I am scared. I have experienced you before. I have seen you with your “Awareness” (the Awareness of why I suck and why you should feel sorry for the people who have to live […]