Screw your IQ test; you will NOT limit my son

I want to introduce you to my son. Five feet seven inches with dark chocolate skin, even darker eyes, and the sweetest smile you’ve ever seen. He doesn’t say a whole lot, but when he has something to say you can tell he has carefully chosen his words. He feels deeply; he’s the child who, […]

Giving success a helping hand

Most of the opinions I hear surrounding neurodivergent people, centre around the idea that they should be working toward functioning, living, and acting like a neurotypical person would. There is talk of how this can be done, of what ‘works’ or doesn’t. People swap techniques over cokes or cappuccinos, at parks and playgroups, and in […]

The Worst Thing

It’s been nearly 4 years since NinjaGirl was diagnosed as autistic. I can’t really describe what it was like back then, because it felt like there was so much happening at the time _ we were very busy with small children, I was still dealing with severe PND, we were massively sleep deprived and trying […]

It’s okay

It’s noon and my daughter is dressed in mis-matched pyjama top and bottoms, with unbrushed (never brushed) hair hanging over her eyes. She’s been awake for half an hour. Her bed-time and waking time are very different from most kids her age. It’s okay. My daughter has a very specific list of things she absolutely […]

a great shift happens when we are open to exploring our own sensory, emotional, cognitive and communication needs.

One thing I wish they told parents

Amidst a huge volume of information and advice about how we can support our children to thrive, people forget to tell parents to explore our own neurodivergence. It’s a simple thing that can create so much change for our families. It has for mine. Parents of neurodivergent children (autistic, dyslexic, active-brained, bipolar, anxious etc), take […]

If your children don't want your physical affection, and you continually ignore this, you are creating a relationship that makes them uncomfortable

Children don’t owe anyone affection

Recently a relative described my 3 year old as “cold”.

Because she did not interact in the way that a relative believed she should. She did not want to be hugged and kissed by them. She had not seen this relative for months, nor did she have a particularly special bond. Nor does my child like being particularly cuddly with anyone apart from myself and my partner.
I wish people would understand that No Child owes them affection, for anything. Full stop.