This year my kids made a friend. “What’s the big deal?” some of you might be thinking. Well, the big deal is that making friends doesn’t come easily to them. And while they don’t seem to bothered by that, I worry about it sometimes (umm…more than sometimes), though I don’t burden them with my […]
Years ago, on this very day, I first met my friend “Kai.” I have not seen or heard from her in years as we met when we were teenagers. But I tend to think of her this time of year and wonder where she is, and how she’s doing. Wonder what her life is like […]
Dear friend, teacher, family, and others in my life. Maybe we haven’t been connecting lately or you’re not really sure where to start. It’s OK. I know you care. So I’m going to share something important with you about autistic people that will help you be a friend to me, and to other autistics.
(That image is me, with my first-born child.) We were twenty years old when my new boyfriend and I discovered that I was pregnant. I experienced a difficult pregnancy and had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I received poor medical care due to – my autistic ways of communicating (I was often fobbed off, disbelieved, ignored, and assumed ‘unstable’); […]
I’ve always been quite blunt about the biggest challenge of being an autistic parent to an autistic child – other people’s expectations. Dealing with other people’s feelings and opinions on how I ought to parent, or how my children ought to be, or both, has always been more stressful and worrisome than whatever was […]
Apparently, quite a lot of people. I spend a lot of my days in a nice little bubble of people who are pretty accepting of individuality. My closest friends are unschoolers, free rangers, vegans and other such folk who move to their own rhythms. Every now and then though, I’m reminded that there are lots […]