Entries by Sophie's Trains

The myth of the martyr “autism sibling”

We have often written about the idea of the martyr parent or alternatively, the “warrior parent”- usually referring to a parent that launches a crusade against their child’s disability while painting themselves as somehow special or better than a typical parent. This type of parent will proudly wear a tshirt announcing their child’s disability, often proclaiming how their child is […]

What makes a good mom?

There’s an aspect of my path to acceptance that I’ve been reflecting on lately. While accepting Sophie as autistic and different was relatively easy, the other part of that was substantially more difficult- accepting myself as her mom. Let me explain that. Motherhood in the age of social media is a loaded affair. We are […]

Life is All a Magic Window

There is a pervasive ideology in the mainstream autism parenting and education community that when it comes to autistic children, you have to act fast. That if we are to teach our children anything, we must hammer it into them before a magical developmental window slams closed forever, leaving our children permanently shut out. This concept […]