Technology usage by children is a topic which elicits strong opinions. Many parents feel it is something that should be strictly limited, withheld or earned. Growing up, television was something that was restricted and tightly controlled for me. I had to do a lot of de-schooling when I became a parent because I had internalized […]
Recently, I had one of those Facebook memories pop up. It was from three years ago when I shared my excitement over my then three year old son giving me a kiss for the first time. I don’t remember posting about it. At the time, it must have felt important and like some kind of […]
Therapy is a controversial topic. I have previously discussed why we go back and forth from little to no therapy for our three autistic children. I do not believe in “Early Intervention” or other pathologizing approaches that view autistic people through the lens of brokenness and ableism. We have continually refused all compliance based therapy. […]
Autism “professionals” tell me you need a lot of help and intervention. NOW, before the window closes. They say. They meet you and talk of deficits. They check boxes and tally scores. I disagree. You are not a thing in need of fixing. They are really missing out, these people who cannot see how perfectly […]
When my son A was 6 months old, I knew he was autistic. I was absolutely certain of it. I really enjoyed watching him play and explore the world. He used to spin the rainbow stacking rings on their side and figured out just the right amount of pressure to get them to spin for […]
What if the antidote to grief was acceptance? I believe it is. My three children are all autistic. My husband and I are not sad about it. I did not grieve at any of their diagnoses. We already knew and autism was so intertwined with our daily life that there was no devastation whatsoever upon […]