Entries by Ally Grace

Searching for a better way to live

It’s rare for parents to respect their autistic children. Many believe they are respectful; but if you believe that your child is disordered or damaged, how respectful is that really? I live by the Neurodiversity Paradigm. It’s a base of thinking that involves the deep respect of neurodivergent people (which includes autistic people and other […]

When our kids act out

Before I had a few kids and learned better, I believed extreme emotional reactions from children to be inherently problematic. I assumed, a bit too literally perhaps, that children would model their behaviour on their caregivers and the people they spent significant time with.  I worried about ‘exposure’ to problematic (or so I thought) behaviour […]

In rebellion of Unschooling dogma

I’m an autistic parent (which means that I am autistic and I am also a parent), and my family is a Radical Unschooling family. It is disheartening to be ignored and silenced within Unschooling communities, however this is what happens all the time to autistic parents who wish to speak about the intersection between neurodivergence […]

Hello, April.

Hello, April. I looked at the calendar today. I see that you are near. I see that you are near and I am scared. I have experienced you before. I have seen you with your “Awareness” (the Awareness of why I suck and why you should feel sorry for the people who have to live […]

Neurodiversity Paradigm Parenting FAQs

I am a parent to autistic children, and am also autistic myself. In my day to day life, I meet other parents of autistic children. Parents are often immensely ableist, seeing their autistic children through a lens of deficits and pathology-based behaviours, and viewing the very concept of being autistic as a kind of ‘something […]